When your kids looks like this and it’s okay!!
This was my day, it reminded me of this post I wrote last year. Yes, my 3 minute showers are still a thing!!
I have become a master of the 3 minute shower. My shower time is cut in half with each child I have. I used to be a long shower taker, I would shampoo and scrub, lather and rinse and maybe lather again. I would condition and repeat. I would RELAX. Then my first little one came and my 30 minute shower dropped down to a 15 minute shower. He would sit nicely in his bouncer right in the doorway while I showered so I wouldn’t have to be away from this precious angel for long or I would wait until he napped and would jump in for a semi leisurely soak in the warm and RELAXING shower. My 2nd little one arrived and boy was I in awe. I cuddled and snuggled and frothed with delight but again my shower time dropped to about 8 minutes. The lathering never…
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Preschool has come to an end for my oldest. The next few months will hopefully be full of fun and play and preparation for homeschooling in the fall. It will be our first year and a whole new world for us as a family.
So thankful that I am able to make the choice to homeschool and that I finally have a peace about it!!
Here’s to new beginnings and all the adventures to come!
Stay tuned for more homeschooling plans at the Lane homestead!
The last few days, it seems like everywhere I turn I read something or I hear someone complain about how hard parenting is. (And I’m not talking about a humorous post about all the shenanigans throughout parenting or a passing “this child is crazy” phrase that we all think and sometimes say) Mega parent complainers who are tired, they are worn out, they need some “me” time. They are actually rude and almost unforgiving toward their own child. I kinda want to say and in most recent instances have had to bite my tongue…
“Well what did you expect?”
What in the world are we expecting parenthood to be. If we do it right and actually want what is best for our children then yes it’s going to kick our butts from time to time. The gray hairs are gonna come, the tired eyes, the frown lines, the headaches, the heartbreak, the tears, worry, fear, exhaustion and doubt… etc etc etc etc…
It seems to me that most parents think they are getting into some sort of ‘walk in the park’ adventure. They think having a baby is going to be like those toys that came out in the 90’s, you know the ones… Nano Pets or the Tamagotchis. Those things were the bee’s knees for like a week when I was ten.
I feel like as parents we focus a lot on the negative, on “woe is me” scenarios and we keep reminding everyone how hard parenting is when what we should be reminding everyone and ourselves is although it is very hard it also ends way too soon. We should look at each day as a gift because that is what it is. No matter what you believe in, I don’t think many people could argue with that. I hear stories and know people who have lost their little ones to illness or tragedy. One day they are here and the next day they aren’t and if we can’t see how precious these days are that we have together then we are gonna miss them more when they are gone. And they will be, one day. Kids will grow up, parents will get older and these everyday moments that seem so annoying right now will be a faded memory. A snapshot tucked away in the family photo album.
I sure hope that when I look back one day that I’m not sad because I didn’t choose happiness and joy amidst all the chaos that is raising children. Instead of venting every chance I get (don’t get me wrong, I’m not unfamiliar with a good vent session and I’m not saying that sometimes they aren’t needed) I should remember that there will come a time when my child will no longer do the things that I find a little tiring in the season that we are in.
One day they will no longer…
Ask to be held for the thousandth time that day, and usually as soon as I have a fresh cup of coffee in my hand.
Crawl into bed with us in the middle of the night…. crushing many sensitive body parts in their path.
Beg us to lay down with them every night by wrapping their arms around our necks so tight we don’t know whether to start fighting for a breath or just give in and lay down.
Ask us to read “just one more book”
Try to eat the food we have because it looks better. “Me share with you mommy?”
Have potty accidents and seek us for help and comfort…. and the dreaded clean up.
There are so many more and I could really go on and on but those are some of the things that happen on a daily basis and sometimes I wanna pull my hair out. I’m only human! But then I remember(at least most of the time) that one day they will be all grown up and I will ache to hold them, console them, cuddle with them, take care of them, clean up after them. I will miss stealing one last peek of them in their beds at night.
These moments should be embraced with compassion, not complained about to the point of becoming cruel to our children(whether to their face or not) and continually casting them as the subject of all our complaints.
We were once children ourselves after all!!
So here’s to embracing rather than complaining.
At that time the disciples came to Jesus, saying, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.
“Adults are just outdated children.”
— Dr. Seuss
“Children need models rather than critics.”
— Joseph Joubert, French moralist
Conversations with a 5 year old
5 year old son – “I wanna go in my heart.”
Me – “You want to go in your heart?”
5 year old son – “Mommy, I wanna go in my heart.”
Me – “Why?”
5 year old son – “So I can see God, do you wanna go in my heart so you can see God?”
Why yes, I would absolutely love to!!:)
Finally after years of wanting to make a garden, I finally pulled my big girl gardening boots on and started digging. I have my little ones to thank for it. Their little minds can soak up a lot of info and memories helping out with a garden and luckily I have a whole lot of tiny little hands to help me.
We’ve got some zucchini, squash, onions, cauliflower(my absolute favorite), peppers, lettuce and will be planting some melons in May.
My sister gave us one row of her cement blocks and brought my very crafty niece over to help the kids paint them. Fun all around, now lets just hope something grows!
Here’s to getting dirty!
Fun little update because I didn’t get this posted right away. A glimpse of our first little seed sprouting. Zucchini is the only one to break through so far! Fingers crossed for the rest of them!